Grandparenting on the Spectrum: Building Meaningful Connections

In our latest The Life Unscripted with Rosabel podcast episode, I sat down with special guest Jennifer Kaufman—a current NJ school principal specializing in autism support and the proud grandmother of a seven-year-old on the spectrum. Jennifer shared candid insights from her dual roles, offering practical strategies for grandparents who want to foster strong, loving relationships with autistic grandchildren while honoring family dynamics.

From Principal to Grandparent: Two Hats, One Heart

Jennifer began her career as an English teacher before becoming an assistive technology coordinator and then earning her principal’s certificate. Over the years, she noticed a growing need for specialized support for students with autism—and for their families. When she became a grandmother herself, Jennifer realized how different the grandparenting journey can be. “You think you’re the expert—you’ve raised kids before—but now you have to step back and let your adult child lead,” she explained.

Key Takeaways for Grandparents

• Listen First: Silence and observation are your greatest tools. Let your grandchild’s cues guide you.
• Create Safe Spaces: Provide a quiet corner or familiar items at family gatherings to help with sensory regulation.
• Establish Rituals: Simple routines—songs, train-set playtime, or a special snack—build trust and anticipation.
• Honor Boundaries: Offer advice only when asked. A quick email with “take what you like, leave the rest” can be more welcome than uninvited tips.
• Practice Self-Care: Grandparenting on the spectrum is joyful but energy-intensive—schedule rest, naps, and recharge time.

About Jennifer’s Workshops & Resources

Jennifer leads presentations and one-on-one consultations for grandparents and families. She’s also developing autism-response training for local police and emergency services. Learn more about her work and sign up for workshops at GrandparentingOnTheSpectrum.com.

Connect with Jennifer

• 🌐 Website: grandparentingonthespectrum.com
• 📷 Instagram: @grandparentingonthespectrum
• 📘 Facebook: @grandparentingonthespectrum
• ✉️ Email: jen@grandparentingonthespectrum.com
• 📖 Book: Grandparenting on the Spectrum: A Journey from Both Sides of the Desk (available on Amazon)

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If you enjoyed this deep dive, I’d love to continue the conversation with you:

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Thank you for reading—and here’s to building stronger, more meaningful connections across generations!