The Gift of Goodbye

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Recently, I gave myself a gift that, while difficult, was necessary—the gift of goodbye. Letting go is never easy, but sometimes, it is the healthiest and most freeing choice we can make.

For years, I tried to build cordial relationships with certain distant family members. No matter what I said or did or how much effort I put into fostering understanding, there was always an underlying tension, a wall that refused to come down. I wanted peace, but peace was never entirely within reach—not because I didn’t try, but because there was always one person stirring the pot.

This individual thrived on manipulation, and instead of others seeing it for what it was, they continued to feed into it, giving power to the toxicity. Time and again, I found myself caught in the same exhausting cycle—trying, hoping, giving the benefit of the doubt—only to be pulled back into the same old chaos. It was like trying to build a bridge on quicksand.

Eventually, I faced a painful truth: some relationships are not meant to be. The more I tried to nurture connections with these family members, the more this person found a way to insert herself into our lives, bringing a storm of demands and drama. It was an endless loop, and I knew I had to break free.

So, I made a decision. I said, "Enough is enough." I chose my emotional and mental well-being over the illusion of harmony that would never truly exist. Walking away wasn’t easy, but neither was constantly battling a situation that drained me.

In this case, goodbye was not just an ending—it was a beginning—a beginning of peace, self-respect, and prioritizing my happiness over unhealthy ties. And while it may feel bittersweet, I remind myself that sometimes, the greatest act of self-love is knowing when to walk away.

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The Human Margin Part 2 and DOGE -Department of Government Efficiency

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The Human Margin Part 2 and DOGE -Department of Government Efficiency

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In this episode of the Life Unscripted podcast, Rosabel and Reid delve into the themes of vulnerability, leadership, and workplace culture, emphasizing the importance of small gestures in leadership. They discuss how these elements contribute to employee retention and overall workplace morale. The conversation then shifts to government efficiency, mainly focusing on the DOGE initiative, which aims to modernize federal technology and reduce wasteful spending. They explore the implications of this initiative, including audits and the allocation of funds, while also addressing the challenges of balancing efficiency with human connection in various sectors, especially healthcare.

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Reflections on Kill as Few Patients as Possible

I recently read Kill as Few Patients as Possible by Oscar London, MD, and I was entertained and deeply reflective. The book is a collection of 56 sharp and humorous essays that offer a candid, behind-the-scenes look at the medical profession. Dr. London's wit is razor-sharp, but beneath the humor lies a wealth of wisdom that resonates with anyone in healthcare—or anyone who has ever been a patient.

One of my biggest takeaways from this book is the role of humor in medicine. Dr. London clarifies that laughter is not just a tool for surviving the high-stakes world of healthcare but an essential part of doctor-patient interactions. I've always believed that bedside manner is crucial, but reading his insights has reinforced how much a well-placed joke or a reassuring smile can impact a patient's experience.

Dr. London doesn't shy away from highlighting doctors' fallibility. He reminds us that medicine is an ever-evolving field, no matter how much experience we gain, and humility is key to becoming a great physician. His explanation resonated deeply with me. It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking we know everything, but his words were a refreshing reminder that the best doctors continue to learn, question, and adapt.

One of the book's more thought-provoking aspects is its exploration of ethical dilemmas. Dr. London presents real-world scenarios that force physicians to make tough decisions, often in gray areas without perfect answers. Reading his perspectives made me reflect on my approach to ethical decision-making and the weight of responsibility that comes with patient care.

Dr. London emphasizes the significance of genuinely listening to patients throughout the book. I strive to do this daily, but his reflections reminded me that listening isn't just about hearing words—it's about understanding fears, concerns, and emotions. Building trust with patients isn't just a skill; it's an art.

Dr. London's humor and honesty remind us that while medicine is a science, it is also profoundly human. His reflections have given me a renewed sense of purpose and a reminder to approach each patient with compassion, humility, and a touch of humor.

Have you read Kill as Few Patients as Possible? I'd love to hear your thoughts. Let's discuss them in the comments below!

Exploring The Human Margin: A Deep Dive

This week on the Life Unscripted Podcast

https://open.spotify.com/show/0dR0ojKIY3igJLTEnLVUQ8?si=475b42c08ba440a9

Exploring The Human Margin: A Deep Dive

In episode 13 of the Life Unscripted podcast, hosts Rosabel and Reid unpack the profound insights from Katherine Mees and Quint Stutter's book, 'The Human Margin'. We delve into life's margins, emphasizing how genuine connections and significant growth occur in these spaces. Key themes explored include vulnerability, trust, and human connection, underscoring their critical roles in leadership, workplace culture, and personal relationships. We emphasize the importance of empathy and authentic communication in fostering supportive environments, particularly in healthcare and corporate settings. We conclude with reflections on the impact of small gestures and authenticity in nurturing meaningful connections.

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The Courage to Succeed: A True American Dream. -Book Series: To Billy Jean

 

To Billy Jean

I could not have written this book without talking about Billy Jean. She was beautiful—inside and out—the kind of beauty that wasn’t just seen but felt, radiating warmth and love to everyone who crossed her path.

The moment I met Billy Jean was the summer of 2005, a year of significant changes for me. I had just moved from Tampa, Florida, to Alabama, eager to start fresh and searching for a church home. Something led me to the First Church of the Nazarene in Dothan, Alabama. I still don’t know if it was chance, divine intervention, or both. She was one of the first people to greet me, and from that moment, it felt like I had found something I didn’t even know I was missing—a mother.

Our bond was instant and undeniable. From that first meeting, Billy Jean became one of the most important people in my life. We were inseparable. She welcomed me into her life, home, and family like I was one of her own. I joined her family for countless meals, gatherings, and momentous occasions. Thanksgiving dinners and Christmas mornings were spent surrounded by the love she so effortlessly cultivated. I would spend entire weekends at her home, where her beloved husband, whom I affectionately called “Mr. Billy,” would greet me like I was their daughter.

Billy Jean didn’t just open her home to me; she opened her heart. During some of the most challenging times of my life, when I needed a place to stay or simply a refuge from life’s storms, I knew I could turn to her. Her door was always open, and her embrace was always welcoming. Being with her felt like being at home.

She was my cheerleader and encourager, constantly present when I needed it most. Billie Jean made you feel like you mattered and were worth fighting for and loving. She saw potential in me even when I doubted myself. She wasn’t just a friend or mother figure but a guiding light.

Billy Jean celebrated my milestones as if they were her own. She organized my wedding reception, ensuring every detail was perfect. She also took charge of my graduation party, making me feel honored and loved in ways I will never forget. She had a gift for making every moment special, every memory unforgettable.

She passed away recently at the age of 85. She wasn’t sick; it was just her time to go home to the Lord after a brief illness. That was Billie Jean—always ready, always faithful. Her passing was peaceful, just as her life had been, filled with grace and love.

If I regret one thing, it’s not visiting her sooner, as I had promised. Life distracts us from what’s truly important, and I let time slip away. But even in her absence, I take comfort in knowing that we always stayed in touch, and she always knew how much she meant to me.

Billy Jean was a unique soul, the kind of person you only meet once in a lifetime if you’re lucky. She was proof that angels walk among us. Writing about her here is a tribute and a thank-you to the woman who changed my life in ways I’m still discovering.

Thank you, Billy Jean, for your love, kindness, and unwavering belief in me. Thank you for being a second mother when I needed one most. You will always hold a piece of my heart, and your memory will live on in every act of kindness I pass on to others.

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The Courage to Succeed: A True American Dream. -Book Series, Chapter 10

 

Chapter 10

“The struggle of life is one of our greatest blessings. It makes us patient, sensitive, and Godlike. It teaches us that although the world is a whole of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it. -Helen Keller

The struggles

Would you believe me if I told you that I’ve faced bullying more than once in my life? The first time was in second grade when a fellow student, for reasons I’ll never understand, tried to throw me off the balcony. It was a terrifying experience, but my mother didn’t hesitate; she immediately transferred me to a different school. I was so grateful for her quick decision, knowing she potentially saved me from becoming another tragic statistic. My mom wasn’t one to play around with when it came to protecting me, and I applaud her.

Years later, I encountered another bully while working as a receptionist. A girl in the office seemed to enjoy embarrassing me in front of others. However, that situation didn’t last long because I didn’t let it define me. I moved ahead in my career, while she probably remained stuck in the same place. The point is I inherited my mother’s generous heart, and I strive to live by her example. But I’ve noticed that people often mistake my kindness for weakness. They don’t realize that kindness is a strength I carry with me in all my interactions.

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The Courage to Succeed: A True American Dream. -Book Series, Chapter 9

 

Chapter 9

“When you are wronged repeatedly, the worst thing you can do is continue taking it--fight back!” ― Donald Trump.

Fight, Fight, Fight…

Success is a courageous journey, a tapestry woven with threads of ambition, resilience, and an unwavering commitment to growth. It's not merely about reaching a goal but about daring to step into the unknown, confronting challenges head-on, and persisting despite the inevitable setbacks. The courage to embrace the discomfort of pushing beyond what's familiar, risk failure, and learn from mistakes fuels resilience, inspires growth, and motivates us to keep going, no matter how tough the road becomes. This courage is within all of us, waiting to be ignited and nurtured.

Within me burns a fire that ignites whenever someone tells me, "No." It's not just a matter of being stubborn—though I admit that stubbornness plays a role. It's about refusing to let others define my limits, to be boxed in by someone else's perception of what is possible. This refusal and determination to push beyond boundaries have been a powerful force driving many of my successes, and I believe it can also drive yours. You can define your limits, refuse to be confined by others' restrictions, and transform barriers into stepping stones.

One defining example of this determination was my journey to secure preceptors for my clinical nurse practitioner training. Financial constraints had already forced me to give up my dream of becoming a physician in Colombia—a dream I still hold close to my heart. This might have been the end of the road for many, but it was merely a detour for me. Some family members didn’t take my ambitions seriously, brushing off my goals as unattainable or impractical. But that lack of support didn’t deter me. My passion burned brighter than any obstacle. I knew I had to find a way around every barrier, and my determination kept me moving forward. Along the way, I was fortunate to find mentors and supportive figures who believed in me and helped me navigate the challenges, but my inner resolve made me persevere.

I'll never forget a comment made during my graduation party after earning my BSN in nursing. Someone remarked, "You’re so smart. Why didn’t you go to medical school?" Though likely well-intentioned, this question revealed a common misunderstanding about the unique value of nursing. Nursing is not a fallback or a compromise; it is a calling, a profession built on compassion, critical thinking, and a deep dedication to patient care. My decision to pursue nursing was deliberate. It was not about settling for less but about finding a path where I could make a tangible difference in people’s lives.

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